Confidence

If You’re Not Growing, You’re Dying

I hope this will inspire and Kickstart your personal growth to improve your mental health, wellbeing and confidence. 

Our bodies are refreshing, replacing and regenerating themselves in many ways, all the time. Did you know that the external layer of skin, the epidermis (apart from the thicker dermis beneath), renews itself every 35 days? You receive a new liver every six weeks. Your stomach lining replaces itself every four days, and the stomach cells replaced every 5 minutes. Our whole skeletal structures are regenerated every three months. Your whole brain replaces itself every two months. And the whole of the human body is replaced every 5-7 years. 

You only have two possibilities: growth or death. You don’t get to stay the same – because everything changes. Relationships, businesses, the human body never stays the same. They’re either going forward: growing, or they’re dying.

Ralph Waldo Emerson — ‘The mind, once stretched by a new idea, never returns to its original dimensions.’

Our mind, body and spirit are continually adjusting to everything we’re experiencing. Every time we reach a new level of skill in something, that automatically becomes the new norm. Conversely, when we stop studying, exercising or caring, given enough time, we drop behind.

Consider businesses that have failed to evolve due to plummeting profits during the pandemic. 

Relationships don’t always stay the same. Both individuals continually need to on the relationship, or it fades and maybe even stops.

Tony Robbins says that if you’re not growing, you’re dying. No wonder he’s addicted to growth, obsessively focused on learning, understanding, and mastering new things, from finance strategies to playing polo. But growth doesn’t require massive changes 24/7 — for many of us, and it’s woven into our daily routine.

Staying the same isn’t staying the same. It’s regressing. If you’re not growing, you’re dying. Below are five tips to consider when it comes to growing that will also boost your confidence: 

  1. Lifelong Learning – Studies have discovered that learning throughout our lives can improve self-confidence and increase optimism, life-satisfaction, and belief in our abilities. It can even help those with mental health difficulties, such as anxiety and depression.
  2. You’re The Average Of The Five People You Spend The Most Time With
    Motivational speaker Jim Rohn famously said that we are the average of the five people we spend of the time. When it comes to relationships, we are considerably influenced — whether we like it or not — by people close to us. It affects our way of thinking, decisions and self-confidence.
  3. Forgive Past Failings and Learn from Them – Failure is an integral part of life. Not only is the road to success paved with failure, but it’s how you learn best. Learn how to tame your inner critic and start trusting and believing in yourself.
  4. Increase Your Self-Love – I remember ten years ago and sat in a room with a dozen or more therapists when the instructor asked everyone how much they loved themselves out of ten. I think from memory, I said at the time, maybe four. I’ve not been asked that question before, nor have I asked myself that question. Many of us look to our partners, family and friends for love. Will Smith believes he’s not responsible for his wife’s happiness. So, if you were to ask me today, how much do I love myself now? I’d say eight or nine. It’s a work in progress from decades of conditioning, dispelling old beliefs, norms and values. Life is a journey.
  5. Find A Reason to Smile Every Day – Whenever you feel unmotivated, low in confidence or low in morale, find something to smile or laugh about (ex: watch a comedy, listen to music that moves you, connect with a friend who you know will lift your spirits). Suppose you find yourself giving into negative thoughts, painful memories, or overwhelmed with emotions. Empower yourself and commit to 10 minutes of humour, which breaks your state and puts you in a positive frame of mind. Honestly, it works!

Next Steps

I’ve created an easy, effective, powerful system that anyone suffering from a lack of confidence, motivation or resilience could immediately apply and benefit from when they work with me. I help people rediscover their identity so that they feel physically robust and better equipped mentally; ultimately, they feel in better control of their lives.

Please contact me directly for more information about how this can work for you. Email enquiries@mikelawrence.co.uk or call 07967 052585.